Saturday, October 8, 2011
Speaking in Generalities
Some of the fallacies discussed later in the chapter occur in my life. For instance, I tend to speak in generalities. My roommates may notice that I'm not looking so well that day and ask me what's wrong. I'll say something like "I'm just mad." and never expand on it. I'll tell people the basics of what's going in on in my life, but I won't want to discuss in great detail. This can be an ineffective way to communicate because for one, it's short-sided conversation. And secondly, the person can't get to know you very well. The way the book discussed to combat speaking in generalities, was to choose how to express your emotions. It says to first identify the actual feelings your are feeling. Then, you need to decide who you want to express your feelings to. Then, you must evaluate the perfect time and setting to discuss your feelings to get them across in a effective manner.
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I think you bring up some interesting things in your post. I think we get used to speaking in generalities because sdelf-disclosure is often more work than just avoiding the problem. I also tend to speak in generalities, but this is probably common for most people. Most of us are not comfortable talking about what is bothering us .I often wait a few weeks before I talk about ity. By then, it's already too late.
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