Saturday, October 22, 2011
Investment in Relationships
Something I found interesting from this week's reading is investment into relationships. According to the text, investments are "what we put into relationships that we could not retrieve if the relationship were to end." So in a relationship we invest time, money, and effort. It takes time to commit to people, money for gifts and activities with them, and effort to maintain that relationship. When a relationship ends, we lose that investment. The only way to keep the investment is to keep that relationship going. I think this is why when relationships come to an end, it is difficult for people. I've noted within my past relationships that ended, I thought a lot about the time and money I invested into that relationship. It made me feel like I lost a big chunk of time I could have been investing elsewhere. However, investing in relationships in necessary and imperative.
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I agree investing in a relationship is important, but I also feel that the time, money, and effort put into one is just the cost of learning what you want in a relationship. What I mean is, that people who end a long term relationship have spent an extensive amount of resources that kept it going for as long as it did, now that its over, the time was spent, but knowledge and experience was gained. Sure the time could have been spent elsewhere but that could be said about literally everything we do. However much you value the time you spent with another individual is what it was worth.
ReplyDeleteI also thought this was an interesting concept. I also absolutely 100% agree with you. In a relationship I invest everything into it. I work hard for the thing I buy for my boyfriend. I feel happier to do it then to feel like I have to. I do this because I feel committed enough to work hard for my relationship. I know how it feels also to lose a lot of my life with the wrong person. I felt cheated out of my life because I invested a lot in someone and it was for nothing. However everything happens for a reason!
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