One concept I found interesting from the chapter ten reading is the challenge of distance and friendship. It is one I have struggled with since I moved away from home for college. Basically, the section states that most friendships do not survive great distances. However, it is dependent on how much the two are willing to work on the friendship and want to stay friends. I have barely maintained any friendships from high school. If it weren't for social networking sites such as Facebook, I wouldn't have contact with any at all. I keep my three best friends from home close though. The section states that to maintain these long distance friendships, frequent email contact, phone calls, and visits are necessary. I've noted that with the friends I don't talk to anymore, its because I never contacted them since high school. It also discusses that women are more likely to adjust schedules to accommodate long distance friendships. This relates back to the fact that women value closeness through dialogue, while men value closeness through activities. Lillian Rubin came up with the concept of "friends of the heart" and "friends or the road." Friends of the heart are the ones we will keep close for longer periods of time and friends of the road are temporary and will change throughout our different periods of life.
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